Thoughts

So, I've been wanting to write this for a while, if not for any other reason than the fact that I've been thinking about it so I want to share it.

Chance recently graduated college in April and got a job. We are so excited about this! One reason is that we are really looking forward to being self-reliant and not needing financial assistance from others. Up until a few months ago, we needed the help of Medicaid, WIC, and Food Stamps. I almost feel like I'm admitting something horrible by saying that! The reason is because I know people (including close friends) who have said (or posted) hurtful, judgmental things about people who use these programs. I guess I haven't had the guts to say anything back, because I'm too afraid of the harsh judgement I might get. But I feel too strongly about this not to at least write a blog post about it (I really hate confrontation...something I obviously need to work on :))

 I see both sides of the issue. I personally have been in a place where I could not have survived financially without these programs and at the same time, could not wait until I didn't need them anymore. I think that mindset is true about a lot of people, like me, who have had to use them. I have also worked in a doctor's office and have seen my share of people who clearly abuse the system (ie coming to the doctor for literally a scratch because they didn't have to pay for it when on Medicaid). I understand why people who work hard to sustain themselves feel frustrated by people who abuse a system paid for by taxes (a system that is flawed in and of itself, but that is a different discussion). I guess what I'm trying to say is, yes, frustration is totally valid. However, think twice about the ways you express that frustration. You may just have a close friend who needs those programs and, therefore, is one of the people you are bashing. You may say, "Oh, if I knew that, of course I'd think differently, they are my friend!" But your friend will automatically group herself with the people you are talking about.

I once had a patient come in to the office I worked at and I asked if she still had the same insurance (Medicaid) because I would need to see her card for that month. With so much excitement, she pulled out a new private insurance card and said how happy she was to finally not need Medicaid. I remember genuinely feeling excited for her because I could completely relate. I am actually grateful for the experience of needing financial help because it opened my eyes to the fact that some people use these programs because they really need them. I was one of them. I know that I make my share of judgments and I just hope that I can do better at remembering what it feels like to be on the receiving end of judgement.

And now, enough writing. Here's some pictures :)

 Graham was so funny here ^^^ he would not stop staring at our friend Steve!!

Until next time :)